Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivation. Show all posts

Thursday, 16 June 2016

Three deadly sins to avoid when choosing a professional speaker

As I survey the speaker’s market I’ve become a tad weary willfully wearing the title "Motivational Speaker". All speakers worth their salt seek to motivate or cause action. Maybe it's just me, but does the mere mention of the term "Motivational Speaker" conjure irritating mental pictures in your subconscious mind? There are far too many stereotypes being propagated regarding speakers. I will address a few of these speaker stereotypes and hopefully simultaneously construct a not-to-do list that aspiring speakers may use on their roads to success in the lucrative speaking industry.


Motivational Speaker Stereotype Number One:


The "Over-The-Top" Speaker


The "Over-The-Top" Speaker or the O. T.T. Speaker appears to have discovered a new fad diet which includes mountains of pure sugar and caffeine. The O. T.T. will at any given moment find it necessary to expend tremendous amounts of energy racing about the platform as if a sniper has them in the crosshairs. During smaller office presentations, The O. T.T. speaker may also be seen jumping atop a desk shouting "Go For It!” or performing their best impressions of former Governor and one time Presidential hopeful, Howard Dean's famous "YEAAAAAHHHHHH".


It didn't work for Mr. Dean either.


Reality:


I do not desk hurdle. Many professional speakers whom I admire keep their gestures natural and their tones conversational in nature. This is not “Ringling Brothers, Barnum & Bailey” and a speaker's stage is not a big tent.


Motivational Speaker Stereotype Number Two:


The "T. M.I." Speaker


In efforts to emotionally connect with the audience, the notorious T. M.I. Speaker offers up way Too Much Information of a personal nature. To the bewilderment of the hiring authority, the TMI speaker utilizes 90% of their time recanting inner-turmoil, teary-eyed, blow-by-blow commentaries of abuse, personal struggles and tragedies. Though touching, the program's focus is obscured and the message diluted by the T. M.I. Speakers deluging pity party. The T. M.I. speaker fails to realize the goal of any program is to inspire some sort of action of the audience, not to become a martyr or charity case.


Reality:


Engaging your audience is the goal of any professional speaker, but personal stories should only be used if they directly support and impact the overall theme of your program. Please allow me to cement my viewpoint with a brief story: During my first professional position as a paralegal for a government agency I had the marvelous opportunity to work side-by-side with a number of experienced individuals and mentors. These mentors taught me many compelling business principles that I currently utilize. One day at work on a crowded elevator I struck up a conversation with one such mentor. In the efforts to protect the innocent and the ignorant I'll refer to the mentor in this story as "Mr. Edwards".


Me: Hello Mr. Edwards, I noticed you in the lobby earlier today...


Mr. Edwards: Yes, Timothy my family paid me a visit...


Me: Really? Was that your son you were holding earlier?


Mr. Edwards: Oh no, that was my nephew. I can't have kids, I'm sterile.


Me: Okay


Motivational Speaker Stereotype Number Three:


The "High-Tech, Low-Performance" Speaker


The H. T.L. P. Speaker loves to put on a show! The H. T.L. P's program not only begins, its middle and its end is littered with state-of-the-art, eye-popping sound-effects and a fantastic frenzy of flashy visuals. In the outset the audience is totally mesmerized, but it becomes grossly apparent that the H. T.L. P. is heavy on the glitz and light on the substance. The H. T.L. P. is a show-person. The H. T.L. P’s entire speech can be boiled down to a bookmark of inspirational quotes which can be readily found by any 12-year-old conducting a 30-second search on GOOGLE. Yes, the H. T.L. P. catches the audience’s attention, but has no inkling where to go from there, except, you guessed it, onto the next variation of visual, vain displays which culminate into sensory overload and useful substance deprivation.


Solution:


Many professional motivational speakers acknowledge the need to capture the audience's attention, but should a professional speaker need a truckload of explosives to do it? No. The highly regarded professional speaker realizes that he or she is the distributor of the information being disseminated not some slide projector, movie screen or artificial simulator. The speaker who relies too heavily on electronics to deliver a message detracts from the human-element of their content. Limiting the bells and whistles in the show will allow both the audience and the speaker to focus on the theme and purpose of the program. Clients watching their Rate of Investment (ROI) versus their Rate of Return (ROR) will expect less show, more business and measurable results to justify a speaker’s fee. In short, if the only requirements for an effective presentation are flashy PowerPoint slides and spectacular visuals, there's no need for a human-being, and I beg to differ.


Wrap Up:


Many elements can be included in a speaker’s arsenal to deliver the utmost impact in their programs. Story-telling, humor, props, visuals, gestures, role-playing, personal anecdotes, eye contact and poignant quotations all serve as a means to effectively communicate the overall theme of a motivational speaker’s message. A speaker shouldn't rely on any one method too heavily and the ultimate goal must always be to leave the audience with a course of action they are motivated to pursue. After all, it's what happens "after" we leave the stage that matters most, right? A professional speaker who leaves his client with positive measurable end-results is a highly sought-after resource and no joking matter.


Friday, 20 May 2016

Focus on others to feel better yourself - 5 kindness motivation tips

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Focus on Others to Feel Better Yourself -

Many times we can be guilty of focusing mostly on our troubles and worries. It can become an effort to do the everyday things like washing dishes, mowing the lawn, feeding the kids a decent meal. Is there a way to overcome these feelings that keep us down and unwilling to do the things we need to do? Is there a way to get back on track emotionally and make a difference at the same time?



One surefire way to get your mind off your troubles and to make a difference is to stop focusing on yourself and focus instead on someone else and their needs. There are countless people who very seldom receive any kindness or thoughtful treatment; many who need to know they matter to someone; many who need to know someone cares. You can make a difference and lift your spirits all at one time!



Once you've decided to take this step, what do you do? Below are five kindness motivation tips from the e-book, "101 Ways to Change the World".



1. Everyone needs friendship (even you).

  • Spend an afternoon with someone you know is lonely and don't make it just a one-time visit.

  • Decide to drop by on a regular basis.

  • Send them notes.

  • Become a lifeline for just that one person.


  • 2. Find a kid who needs to know they matter - unfortunately, there are way too many of them.

  • Determine to make that kid know someone believes they are special.

  • Send a card or note every week (at least).

  • If you know what they are interested in, send them articles about it.

  • Send stories that will build self-confidence and inspire them to be all they can be.

  • Most of all let them know you care. Imagine how much it means to feel special - especially to a child who seldom receives any kindness, small gifts or hugs.


  • 3. Share flowers or vegetables from your garden

  • Take some to an elderly neighbor who can no longer garden.

  • Take some to a friend going through a hard time.

  • Drop them off at a neighbor's house 'just because'.


  • 4. Become an email Pen Pal with someone - it is so easy to send daily e-mails in order to make a difference in someone's life. You could email:

  • A kid in a detention enter

  • Someone in a Nursing Home

  • Someone with special needs who can't leave home

  • A foster child

  • Kids in an orphanage


  • 5. Put gift certificates in a special card or note. Go to your local:

  • Bowling alley

  • Skating rink

  • Amusement park, etc.

  • Ask them to give you free coupons you can share with kids who need to know that someone cares and who need a little kindness.


  • Many of the bad things happening in our world are done by people who never believed they mattered. No one took the time to show kindness or let them know they are special. Just one act - changing a person's anger and sadness with your love - can have a far-reaching impact!



    Use these five kindness motivation tips to start your own ideas flowing. For even more motivational tips, down load "101 Ways to Change the World" at 101WaysSeries. com. You'll certainly make a difference to someone each time you use these motivation tips - because showing kindness is contagious!